Friends Policy

[yrieithydd]

Mmmm. I've been meaning to make this post for a long while. I noticed that at some point (around the time of atreic's Great God Debate and the Anglo-Saxon Vespers) three people friended me. Since then I've been meaning to post about my friends policy. Until those three people friended me, my friends had all been people that I know to some extent IRL and even in the case of those I first met online that was on the ship not LJ and I know now them IRL. These three were not people I've really met (serenasnape sang at the A-S Vespers but I'm not sure I'd recognise her again) and in the case of one, I hadn't even noticed him commenting on friends journals. This resulted in me not reciprocating the friending and thinking, `I must post about this'. So now, I finally get round to this!

Part of my problem is that LJ conflates two things under friends: those whose posts appear on your friends page; and those who can read your friends only posts. I would have no qualms about adding people I don't know that well to my friends page (and then in reading that I might feel I knew them better). I am far less comfortable with the idea of allowing them to read my f-locked posts. I should have stuck to my initial impulse of filtering things rather than just posting the f-locked but at some point I got bored of this and so there are back posts which are visible to all my friends which I'm not sure about letting people I know less well see. I could go back and change the security level, but that's faff!

Comments from my current friends about how they've managed this are welcome as are introductions (and thoughts) from those who friended me back then. Who are you and what prompted you to friend me?

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[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

No, that wouldn't have been me. I left Cambridge in 1991. I did do a bit of singing while I was there, but with MagSoc.